They are seen many as business
deals that have very little to do with love.
Yeah! I’m just talking about love marriage and arranged marriage. Do you know the main problem? Of-course you
know, its ‘love’. I’ve seen many people
mad in love, even I know few couples very personally and there is nothing
shocking you can see many around us just like a hula-hoop. People have their own reasons for getting
married with their loved ones. I have
experienced, many of them fall for beauty and that is too easy to fall, you may
fall in love with the beauty of someone but remember; finally you have to live
with character, not beauty.
People
often talk about love but I want to ask a question that what is love? How do
you feel? From where you came to know about it? Any guess?
The parents – As much I know and I
concerned in this I’ll say that we started feeling love through our parents. Parents play a very crucial role in our life
you know that very well, so no explanation.
They try to bring us up with good knowledge and behaviour and all good
stuff. And that why they expect
something from us, it can be trust, the honesty, following do’s and don’ts
according to them. So my point is here
if they are doing everything for us then why do we go for love marriage? Why
nowadays people think that arrange marriages are not good? I never got this
walking through my whole life. I feel
love marriages are more risky than the arrange one and also not secure like
arrange. Pardon me if I’m wrong or it
annoys you but the truth is that you may feel that loving someone and getting
married with them will be good for future but it’s not so. If you dig-up the history you will get to
know that love marriages get divorced very soon and often more than arranged
one.
Parents have seen many
marriages and know what will be good for the child and that is why they focus
on the low hanging-fruits. It really
annoys me to see when parents are ignored in such cases. There is a conscious attempt to match the two
families as well as the bride and groom on the parameters of social status,
background, financial strength and many more similar lifestyles. That is the cool-headed decision to increase
the likelihood of the marriage succeeding and that is why it becomes long
lasting.
I’m not against of love marriages
or I’m not targeting here ‘em as bad but I want to know why they can’t follow
their parents. Love is the real pain in
the butt and heart and hate to see this happening around. You may be accepted by your parents in love
marriage but they won’t be happy from heart that is the real pain in
heart. You will get each and every
support from your parents if you are arranged, it may be your financial crisis
or in sickness anything.
A well famous quote "My
doctors told me I would never walk again. My mother told me I would. I believed
my mother." Wilma Rudolph. So that
is what I feel parents love is eternal, powerful and that is why we should
always love them instead of jumping out and making them to feel bad. You know
what I mean here.
Whenever my parents asked me- What
kind of girl do you want? The ultimate answer comes all the way from my heart
is –“Whoever you chose”, I reply with a shrug after all well brought-up boy
;). If someone says me to get a gf, you
should see my reaction it’s like 404 File not found. Plussification to this will say if the
parents are not good according to you then also you should not go for hunting
out for love. First of all love yourself
and your parents and follow them, I’m damn sure you will never ever feel
struck/puck thoughts. Some people may
think that I’m writing this because my parents are good or I’ve been in a good
environment but the truth is that everyone can do that.
If
not now somewhere along the road you will feel about it and you won’t have the
time to regret also, that is what I feel.
I’ve
just posted my views so don’t take it personally anyone and sorry if I sound alien
in modern “love-world”.
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